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The Profile of a Cyberbully

Around the school yard it’s easy to spot a bully, but when harassment takes place online, cyber bullies often torment their victims behind the mask of anonymity, making it difficult to hold them accountable. Just who are these cyber bullies? Are they vengeful youth lurking in online chat rooms or are they “friends” on Facebook? What’s the profile of a cyberbully?

While research suggests that anyone is just as likely to be a bully or a victim, here are a few common profiles of youth-tormenting cyberbullies:

The Peer Predator

It’s not surprising that most cyber bullies are the same age as their victims and equally as likely to be a boy or girl.  These peer predators are more apt to be the Facebook “friends” of their victims. According to a 2004 study by the Journal of Adolescence, 68% of these offenders (typically age 9-14) use the Internet for four or more days per week, while those whose use the Internet most often for chat rooms are three times more likely  to harass others online than those who don’t. As the peer predator passes age 15, bullying becomes more violent and often evolves into sexual harassment.

The Pedophile

On Facebook he is the dreamy 17 year-old  boy or girl everyone has a crush for, in real life he is a middle-aged man, logging into Facebook from his garage to seek out shy, withdrawn, or handicapped children who are vulnerable to his advances. Most often men (though they do include women), these perverts gain the trust of their victims and convince them to take pornographic photos of themselves–which the pedophiles promptly share online with the victim’s peers. Just last week, teenager Amanda Todd killed herself after a string of harassment emanating from an incident where a mystery man posted a photo exposing the teen’s chest.

The Parent/Impersonator

Its probably a teen’s worst nightmare to be ‘friended’ online by their parent, or a friend’s parent on Facebook or Myspace. But when parents impersonate teenagers online in an attempt to take justice into their own hands or “investigate” activity in their child’s social network, it can get really nasty quick. In 2007, a Missouri mom posed as a foreign 16-year-old boy to feign interest in teenage girl Megan Meier, a former friend of her daughter’s to investigate what Megan was saying about her daughter online. After online manipulation and harassment the girl committed suicide at the Missouri mom’s urging.

Holding Cyberbullies Accountable 

Too often these faceless bullies torment their victims without facing consequences for their actions. For youth victims however, their tormentors aren’t faceless:  the profile of a cyberbully is often the kid sitting next to them in class, perhaps a soccer teammate, or a facebook friend, people they know but are too embarrassed to report. Stopping “the peer predator”, “the pedophile” and “parent/impersonator” and other online tormentors is possible by encouraging victims to speak out–identify and report cyberbullies to school administrators and law enforcement when necessary.

 

 

Profile of a Pedophile


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Parents often try and figure out what a pedophile looks like, what they think like, what they sound like, and more. But the truth of the matter is that they don’t look any different from anyone else.

I recently talked with George Feder, a regular contributor to this blog, about his experiences with child molesters in prison. He gave me this bit of information:

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Preventing Sexual Abuse Through More Than ‘Stranger Danger’

Jaycee Lee Duggrad, kidnapped in 1991 by Phillip Garrido

Jaycee Lee Duggrad, kidnapped in 1991 by Phillip Garrido

As someone who follows sex offender issues, I have seen a myriad of recent articles in the media that throw blame at the California parole system, the Contra Costa County Sherriff’s Office, the California state sex offender registry and other governmental agencies for not better protecting Jaycee Lee Duggard and not catching Phillip Garrido sooner (see this article for a blame list that runs the gammut). But throwing blame at governmental agencies only distracts us from the real threats to our child’s safety.

Family and Friends

High-profile cases like this stoke our fear that our children will be abducted by the creepy guy at the end of the block or that some stranger will snatch our children off the street. But, really, that creepy guy at the end of the street is probably much less of a threat to your child than your friendly neighbor, a family friend, or close relative: 93% of first-time sex offenders are friends, acquaintances, or family members—people who are not yet on any registry.

It’s scary to think that your husband, brother, son, aunt, or niece is the most likely person to sexually assault your child. So we put it out of our minds, and we focus on the registered sex offender down the street who we have never met and never talked to.

What We Can Prevent

In reality, despite the waves of criticism being lobbed at California laws and law enforcement for not finding Duggard sooner, there is little to no evidence that Duggard’s actual kidnapping could have been prevented. It has been widely reported that Duggard was snatched off the street—within sight of her own home—as she walked to a nearby school bus stop. Her own stepfather saw the kidnapping take place and was powerless to stop it. But this is an extremely rare case. Protecting your child from sexual predators within your own circle of friends and family is much more preventable.

Go Beyond ‘Stranger Danger’

The first step is talking with your children, not just about “stranger danger,” but about inappropriate touching or inappropriate conversations with people they already know. Let them know that they have the right to say “no” to an adult or teen who makes them feel uncomfortable—even if that person is a friend or family member.

In addition, create a relationship with your child wherein they feel comfortable sharing anything with you. Many child predators shame their victims by telling them that their parents won’t love them or want them anymore if they found out what they did. Make sure your child knows they can always talk to you about anything without shame or remorse.

More Tips

I highly recommend taking a look at this list of suggestions about how to talk to your child and prevent sexual abuse by someone they know: http://www.stopitnow.org/mn/parents3.html

Also, here is a sobering site that lists sex offender statistics: http://www.geocities.com/voicism/index-charts.html#chta

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House Bill HR 1913: Protecting Pedophiles?

There has been a bit of a stir around the House of Representatives recently passing HR 1913, Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act of 2009. This bill updates older legislation that makes some hate crime federal offenses, taking them from the hands of local law enforcement. The new bill is meant to expand the definition of groups that could be targeted for hate crimes to include issues of gender and gender identity.

In an official White House press release, President Obama said, “I urge members on both sides of the aisle to act on this important civil rights issue by passing this legislation to protect all of our citizens from violent acts of intolerance – legislation that will enhance civil rights protections, while also protecting our freedom of speech and association.”

However, on the other side of the isle, some republicans are fighting the legislation saying that the wording of the new bill could protect sex offenders, under the logic that sexual orientation and gender identity could include those who are attracted to children, are voyeurs, flashers, etc. Some have suggested that if a man exposes himself to a woman and she slaps him back, the man would be charged with a misdemeanor and the woman could be charged with a federal felony offense.

Will this legislation be used to protect those targeted by hate crimes because of their sexual preference and identity, or could it be taken too far by government prosecutors? Leave a comment.

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House Bill HR 1913: Protecting Pedophiles?

There has been a bit of a stir around the House of Representatives recently passing HR 1913, Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act of 2009. This bill updates older legislation that makes some hate crime federal offenses, taking them from the hands of local law enforcement. The new bill is meant to expand the definition of groups that could be targeted for hate crimes to include issues of gender and gender identity.

In an official White House press release, President Obama said, “I urge members on both sides of the aisle to act on this important civil rights issue by passing this legislation to protect all of our citizens from violent acts of intolerance – legislation that will enhance civil rights protections, while also protecting our freedom of speech and association.”

However, on the other side of the isle, some republicans are fighting the legislation saying that the wording of the new bill could protect sex offenders, under the logic that sexual orientation and gender identity could include those who are attracted to children, are voyeurs, flashers, etc. Some have suggested that if a man exposes himself to a woman and she slaps him back, the man would be charged with a misdemeanor and the woman could be charged with a federal felony offense.

Will this legislation be used to protect those targeted by hate crimes because of their sexual preference and identity, or could it be taken too far by government prosecutors? Leave a comment.

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